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I began this website out of devotion to the Immaculate Heart of Mary, and I continue it out of sorrow for the wounds inflicted on the Sacred Heart of Jesus by ignorance of-and disdain for-the true Faith, and a personal promise that I made to God.
My motive is healing, and everything on this website and recommended readings have been made available to all, free of charge, so that others may learn from my writings and the writings of others who I have learned from, in the hope that integrity and real love might flourish.
I have incurred a lot of time and expenses associated with this public service, including paying for the time, talent, and hard work of artists and geniuses in the design and development of my websites, as well as licenses to reprint copyrighted information including royalties paid to authors and publishers, and the use of commercial fonts and stock art, as some examples, which does not include the costs that I have paid to my attorneys for trademarks or other costs that I have not already mentioned.
Like one of the best experts who I paid to train me, one-on-one for several years, I had to learn the hard way that effective psychotherapy requires that psychotherapists often need to offer services in a way that may seem ‘counter’ to what clients expect or want from us, in order for them to learn and heal. It was a hard lesson for me because I am a person who likes to give so much of myself and what I’ve learned, out of REAL charity. There’s a part of me that wishes that the unconscious wasn’t such a maze and that I could more easily resolve all of the pain in the world. But that’s not my job and it misses the point.
Psychotherapy is hard work. But that’s not the point either. So, what is the point? BOOK A CALL to find out!
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Future communications that I receive from you and anyone who you are affiliated with, without following through on what I state to you in my response, constitutes harassment and will result in communication from my attorney and damages for my time, attorney’s fees and costs, as well as any other relief that I may be allowed under the law.